arranged marriage

dsjeya · #1 (**permalink**) 10-06-2009, 08:59 PM

equally educated,equally career driven and brought up with equal love and care by the parents,why are women subjected to inspection by prospective inlaws just because the man once happened to be a stronger gender?
3 types of arranged marriages
1.imperative
2.preventive
3.compulsive
to be continued

dsjeya · #2 (**permalink**) 10-07-2009, 07:17 AM

imperative
when the girl is 20-something,good looking graduate (not professionaly qualified),homely yet modern and has failed to find one herself,mom and dad consult aunties and find a groom

HOP3_L3SS · #3 (**permalink**) 10-07-2009, 07:36 AM

things are changing. arranged marriages are not what they once were. now mostly parents are the source of introduction. guy and girl meet, talk, however they want to and see if they click. the decision is totally upto the couple.
i dont know what part of the world you live in...but most of the arranged marriages i've seen...it's not JUST the girl showing herself
do you know the kind of questions thrown at men?
doesnt the GUY have to be on his best behavior? because he has an EQUAL chance of rejection?

dsjeya · #4 (**permalink**) 10-07-2009, 12:56 PM

[QUOTE=HOP3_L3SS;389800]things are changing. arranged marriages are not what they once were. now mostly parents are the source of introduction. guy and girl meet, talk, however they want to and see if they click. the decision is totally upto the couple.
[joke of the century
in a muslim family in india it does not happen
even during marriage bride sits in a separate enclosure
tying of knots done by a female relative of groom
thank god they r allowed to meet in the first night!!!

dsjeya · #5 (**permalink**) 10-08-2009, 06:42 AM

Preventive
a girl in the final year of professional education,likely to be employed with a handsome salary anytime can bring a groom from any religion or cast
parents hurriedly arrange a marriage often ending in disaster

Endurer · #6 (**permalink**) 10-08-2009, 11:04 AM

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Originally Posted by HOP3_L3SS

things are changing. arranged marriages are not what they once were. now mostly parents are the source of introduction. guy and girl meet, talk, however they want to and see if they click. the decision is totally upto the couple.

[joke of the century
in a muslim family in india it does not happen
even during marriage bride sits in a separate enclosure
tying of knots done by a female relative of groom
thank god they r allowed to meet in the first night!!!

I've heard that it gets even worse for Hindu families. Is it true that the indian girl has to sing, dance, move 360 degrees in front of her prospective inlaws? Or is it just bollywood?

dsjeya · #7 (**permalink**) 10-08-2009, 12:52 PM

what endurer says about bride searching in hindu families is correct to certain extent
do u accept my post about muslim marriage in india

dsjeya · #8 (**permalink**) 10-09-2009, 07:59 AM

Compulsive
the girl is a professional,employed earning a handsome salary,sexually active but not selected a groom,parents step in and arrange a marriage before she becomes too old

dsjeya · #9 (**permalink**) 10-10-2009, 10:04 PM

the bridegroom was bought
a rich muslim marriage in india

HOP3_L3SS · #10 (**permalink**) 10-12-2009, 09:11 AM

maybe all the muslims YOU know come from some retarded backgrounds practicing CULTURE on the name of RELIGION
please dsjeya...learn to differentiate between the two =)

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the bridegroom was bought
a rich muslim marriage in india

good for em

dsjeya · #11 (**permalink**) 10-12-2009, 03:45 PM

hop don't u envy the jewelary shop bride

EntangleDesi · #12 (**permalink**) 10-13-2009, 10:52 AM

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Originally Posted by HOP3_L3SS

things are changing. arranged marriages are not what they once were. now mostly parents are the source of introduction. guy and girl meet, talk, however they want to and see if they click. the decision is totally upto the couple.
i dont know what part of the world you live in...but most of the arranged marriages i've seen...it's not JUST the girl showing herself
do you know the kind of questions thrown at men?
doesnt the GUY have to be on his best behavior? because he has an EQUAL chance of rejection?

And even before having a face to face introduction with one another both the female and the male have a chance to say no if they don't want to meet the other person.
Arranged marriages are not forced upon these days nor or they a way to get rid of a daughter or son because they are too old for the market or have done things to make them neligible.

The guy has much of the same chances of being rejected as the girl because of his behavior/ background.

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Originally Posted by dsjeya

in a muslim family in india it does not happen
even during marriage bride sits in a separate enclosure
tying of knots done by a female relative of groom
thank god they r allowed to meet in the first night!!!

wow..that's just low.

dsjeya · #13 (**permalink**) 10-13-2009, 11:25 AM

may be in elite families

EntangleDesi · #14 (**permalink**) 10-13-2009, 07:23 PM

No. Not at all. It's quite the norm these days.

dsjeya · #15 (**permalink**) 10-14-2009, 06:42 AM

a bangladesh female doctor working in u.k wanted marry a gentleman from another religion ,deceived to come back to bangladesh,drugged and forcifully married to gentleman of same religion
her friend filed a complaint with uk polce,the doctor rescued and returned to uk