Attraction and fitness

Do you look for fitness when you fall into love or are attracted to someone? I see people making attraction and fitness synonymous to each other which is awfully shallow.

I think it does matter cuz fit people can make love for longer dan unfit people

hmmmm ... nice Q for me the fitness dosent matter mera liye shakas inside se he fit ho toh kafi hai ..
its enough for me ... agar fat ho toh us slim hona ka liye bol dogi ... uski khoob saari help kardogi ...
and the most important i dont want my partner smoker or drank ...^_^

I think both qty 4 perfect life.

hmm...i dunno what ppl look for when they fall in love...cause that just happens...when one feels attracted to someone and takes control on ones mind...and one can be attracted by looks in real life and by character in cyber life...and as fitness to me is a part of health...which is a wealth for me...thats why i chose fitness matters.

What if your partner is happy the way he/she is? Will you push him/her further?

Never, this might give him the message that i dont love him...which would be wrong...i will want to go with silent improvement...doing it myself and then asking him to help me with this or that...and then after few days asking him to do a little with me making any excuses ...and then a bit more..
actually sometimes the problem towards any improvement is the first step...i know he is happy with the outlook he has...and i m sure he will be happy with the other one also...else it will not take him time to comeback to his old routines.

I agree with Sweeto's and Rahen's first replies. I believe, fitness is important no matter what. It keeps you health. It is important cuz it prevents from many serious diseases and disorders and it keeps your body functioning properly.
I agree to sweeto's reply cuz it is also personal choice and depends on opinion of your respected significant one. However, i will 100% say *fitness matters*.

Peace

The majority of people that I know of start with their leg of constructive criticism. As time goes by, their criticism turns into an ugly you-suck commentary, even though their partner is doing whatever he or she can. My point is that if you have such a problem with someone's weight, appearance, or (in broad spectrum) style then why relate? It's a good practice to maintain oneself but don't you think we should draw a line somewhere? The very definition of male fitness is muscular with fine abs and for female fitness, busty or skinny (breast implants, liposuction, tummy tuck - anyone?) which to me is shallow.

relationship of marriage is like give and take...the way one behaves with the other he/she gets it back...if one of them is showing dissatisfaction from the outer look of the partner... then the other gets it back quiet possible with the way they complete their work or the salary...and the common is dissatifaction...
usually couples criticize on looks and that has brought stress on the other..for example..the other day a lady with freckles and much healthy physique waz saying my husband isnot happy with my looks...and the problem waz her health...she had digestion problem...which affected her outer look...
now in this case..i dont think criticism did any work...and i dont think constructive criticism will also do anything...but mutual work towards it and motivation..can be helpful...

yah...if for someone physical appearance is so important...then i think they shouldnot get married...

...well the outer beauty is that which u hve mentioned in the last two lines...when talking abt media thought of beauty...and the other day i waz reading abt an asian husband ...which is [Only Registered and Activated Users Can See Links. Click Here To Register...]

when talking abt fitness beauty, then for sure this attracts many...now abt drawing a line somewhere..and i think that changes from person to person...defination of beauty might be similar to many...but when it comes to living with them(partner)...everything is abt want..what does one want from their partner.

See, why can't he accept the fact that the freckles won't go away and live with it? It should be easier for him to accept it. Guess some people will never understand that growing old together is a blessing.

It is also about being practical. Of course you should maintain yourself physicially but whats with these outlandish expectations?

yah some ppl dont and some even dont bother to think what is is going on the other partner...if they cant make it...they dont hve any right to break it...

I dunno what to do with those...as majority of the ppl i know are not fitness freak.. and many of the husband wife i see are not even in good shape..still happy...outlandish expectations usually brings one to disaster...quiet possible divorce within a year...i think all of them need to understand...if u like something doesnot mean u hve to bring it home...he/she isnot clay but a human.

I think it's a sign that your partner is interested in someone else when he or she comes home and tells you that you don't look the way you should.

hmm..i think that is not the sign of cheat...the first sign of cheat is...that their behaviour changes..either extremely or less than normal ... too much of makhan also lets know that there is something wrong...actually the one who is interested will not want their partner to know that...and while trying to deceive ppl usually give those signs...