Diversity in relationships

In this era of globalization, we have lots of choices - but do we look for diversity when meeting people? IMHO, it's the sameness that dominates. We like to meet people who are just like us or share something in common.

The point behind this topic: Diversity or sameness, which of these is healthy to have in a relationship?

Diversity is good because you get to learn new things from people that are totally opposite from you. You get to know more and do more with them.

Sameness is good because you'll have someone to share the same experiences and who will actually understand what you're going through.

Conclusion: You should have both.

I agree...a little bit of both but if I has to choose, I would say sameness cuz its safer

^like she said, sameness would be ur safest bet.

Diversity can change a person. this may or may not be a good thing.

Both are just as healthy and unhealthy.
Sameness could be the safest best...but isn't the saying that 'opposites attract'?
so wouldn't it be better to have diversity with some of the sameness...
I'm totally rambling...but yes, we are attracted to those that are like us/share our interests...because, well its just easier...there's no working to find out or try what the other person likes..but with diversity -there's just a whole new world out there...

I completely agree with the posts above. Both are risky or you should have a bit of both.
Personally i sometimes feel attracted to someone who is different than me or has qualities that i don't have but in the long run i find it easy to be with people who are like me in some way or the other.

IMO diversity would suck big time in a long term relationship because it'd translate to more differences. It's the same ol sameness that builds a strong relationship, one that would last longer.

thats a good point Bhai

but wouldn't that also cause the two to butt heads...ie two people with very wrong opinions on a subject?

Its not like they're going to live in a humanless planet - there sure are going to be plenty around them.

*I meant strong not wrong opinions.

It's possible but I don't think diversity is their only option.

without second thought i will go with diversity in relationship...but that doesnot has to be 100% there has to be something common..as an example religion or culture...majority of the relationship i have come in this category only...as we hve spent our "Time" on this...too much of communication and discussion...too much of opinions..and experience sharing..
and this leads to a better decision...and a kind of upgrade to relationship...
yes sometimes i follow what opinion they have..and sometimes my opinion is a better one...to follow...and the whole experience is a cherishing one...

if we have much sameness..why would i bother to ask instead i will go and do it...and to me that is boring for the relationship.. life has to be exciting ...every day should be promising and unexpected...and that is possible with diversity...i would appreciate sameness only in culture and religion...because they hold the backbone...with a bit of hobby and language ofcourse

It boils down to how much change you can take in the long term. Life itself has it's fair share of unbearable changes to offer so I don't think we can receive and endure it from all ends. I like change in taste, color, view, place, food et al but when it comes to someone I am going to spend the rest of my life with; NO! I don't need and I don't want her to be the complete opposite of me.

balance is always the best option to take when both the sides have its pros and cons. life teaches a lot to everyone...and how much one learn/adapt her/him self to it...is worth considering as everyone and everything has its impact...and according to that big steps in life are taken.

writing abt self...i will go with sameness in religion and learner + implementing as a personality. for all else i will choose diversity as yes, it is right life has unbearable changes to offer...and if we both react/respond to it the same way..how will we solve it? and what good would that do to our relationship?