Ex girlfriend's presence after marriage

Is it considered betrayal when you still have feelings / are in touch with your ex girlfriend after marriage? I have my qualms about it but I'd like to hear from you before forumalting an opinion.

If you mean feelings of friendship then that is okay. Break-ups are much better if ended in friendship. As long as one doesn't feel "strong love" towards the other after a break-up then keeping in touch is not a bad thing. If you think you won't be able to ease up the feelings to just friendship, it's best to not keep in touch...at least IMO. So my vote would be either depending on situation. Since the choice of "Either" is not there, I'll let my explanation speak for itself

What if its' something that could jeopradize your relationship with the significant other (wife) then? One things' certain that you can't be friends with your ex.. it's just not possible.

Well, as I said, if it's something that makes you go beyond the realm of friendship then it's better left not being friends. And your perception of certainty is just that...your perception. I think everyone has their own perception of reality and what can/cannot be attained...even with an ex. Due to your own experience, you may feel that it isn't possible to be friends with an ex, but there are many people in the world who have remained good friends with their exes. I, myself, have not gone through this situation, but my answers are a result of logical thinking.

I am not married yet so my opinion is premature & based on real life experiences of my friends. I have seen plenty of it already in their lives and the thought of having my ex flying all over once I am married scares me to timbers. Yes, it is possible to manage a wife and an ex in your life.. but it certainly falls into the grey area especially when you have feelings (OP) for the both of them.

I do agree with that. The unknown has always been a source of fear for man. What you do not know or are unaware of can scare you and I see where that could hinder your thought about exes being friends.

Now we're talking Yes, thats where my ship sinks.

there is nothing to worry abt it if one doesnot bring his ex to home...if the man wants he can also quit seeing her...as we all know love feelings for one person doesnot change...somewhere in the corner will comeup...and might bring home to ashes...if she comes decide one...and free the other...because betrayal is something which is not accepted by any lady...if he keeps after marriage...

Well said sis.

who cares bout da ex.....unless u is insecure bout ur own relationship

I agree...not possible to be friends with ur ex...unless some rare situation, but usually its very awkward and does not work.
I think after marriage it would be plain inappropriate to keep in touch with an ex...what is the need? It would be very uncomfortable to the partner no matter what justification one would give for the friendship/relation.

10/10 for that.

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Ummm Undoubtfully Jiya(Rahen) and Yaasra sis has conveyed the point in a proper manner.. What i feel is that whatever relation you had with someone made your past..In present you are with your wife and you SHOULD better be..After becoming partners one should build up understanding which will let both of them fall in love..And that love will become basis of trust between the two.. Make your partner believe that now you are only hers..And she should keep faith in you.. When a strong relationship will build up then no such things will matter

Coming to point that will presence of ex-friend will matter in relation with wife or not..Obviously it will na I will definitely agree that one cannot simply convert those special feelings to simple ones.. In that matter one has to make a decision by ownself.. Decide which one is more concerned,respected and adorable for you And then better stick to one..Lying between two sides will do nothing except giving serious harm to emotions and relations..

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