Pre-nuptial agreements

I believe that those who have the fear of God in them need no agreements to be made; they will help and support regardless of how their relationship has shaped up. As for those who don't have the fear of God in them, I don't think an agreement is something they will entertain during dismal times.

good..nice opinion...thanks 4 sharing.

I believe, prenuptial agreement is must to sign before getting married. There are many important reasons for that. Just for once one should think about herself, her future family with her significant one and financinal matters. One worry a lot in her/his life for not considering it, however, it makes you happy that you have it no matter you will use it or not.

but nina...there are possibility that it might bring a wave of the thought...that he/she doesnot trust you...cause these kind of agreements before marriage are kind of taking its role in every aspect of life...what say...

Hmmm i and my friend was talking about this topic today, as she is getting married soon. You are totally right that he can have second thoughts and might not like it at all. However, you should be realistic in your comments when you discuss it with your significant one, of course there is always a way to bring up things and that is just typically one of them. I would definitely say, they should both understand that it is 'not' just about dat after divorce the agreement would be helpful for them.

What ya say?

i think this agreement goes for those ppl who have security issues or want to save something for children's future. and not those who believes in the partner and his/her strength...i know death can occur anytime...but i believe rizq is from ALLAH...
The agreement itself isnot bad...but the impact it will bring on the desi couple seems to me not fruitful.

That's is the reason why it is also much wiser to look on the positive side as well. As i have mentioned above, esp. desi should be more open to for example an idea like that. Time is the cure of everything and it takes time to inludge things in a certain way that it gets easier for them to accept it gradually. This is something one should not be ashmed of or get negative impact of your partner but this agreement if for their own good i assume ..

well, it might be wise to think positively...but its wisdom to see things from both sides of the coin instead of one...negetive impacts last longer than positive..in marriage every step towards eachother matters...if this agreement does matter the couple..then i thnk it can be done after marriage also..The point for me is not abt being positive or negetive abt this agreement...my thoughts revolve around him...and if anything can break him...then surely that isnot my want...but if he wants that..i dont mind signing them...and being a muslim..this agreement has already been declared by ALLAH...what will happen in what cases...so no worries or tensions at my side

other side of the coin? hmmm .. well, that can be a possibility for those who at the first place act positive about the agreement then i can see some probability 4 couple to be in safe hands in long term. However, it's a personal choice as i said. People are different and they don't think alike. However, if one of the persons think it is nessessary for them then i also think they can work it out by having meaningful discussion about it.

yah...right... thanks 4 ur opinion

With pleasure!

No - you're basically setting yourself up. letting the materialistic/monetary assets take over the relationship,
i only see it as leading up to not trusting or questioning your spouses moves- wanting to find the faults, only to benefit - materialistically and forgetting the emotions...

when relationship is at its peak...these things dont take place...but yes where there is a doubt...there are agreements like this..or may be when both the partners work...
financial stability can be the reason ...what say...

i always believed that both should be able to support themselves financially, if something were to happen to the relationship - and a prenuptial shouldn't be the one saving their asses..
these agreements are made before the marriage - whats the stability in the agreement??
instead of a commitment, i think that with a prenuptial marriage turns into a contract...
but now after the couple is married, i do believe that both should draw out wills stating what should go to their spouses..children..etc

i liked last two lines...thanks 4 ur opinion...