Relationship Advice from 2007

Top 15 Pieces Of Relationship Advice For 2007

It's never easy to make a relationship work. There are highs and lows, trust and mistrust, fights and reconciliation. And where there is reconciliation, there is a chance. It's literally an art to maintain a relationship.

Each day we learn something new about it. Often you even feel the need to unlearn something. Say, things that you loved about someone will become painstaking after you have known the person for some time. But this, or for that matter your longest fight, is not the end of it.

You learn your way out of it and you move on. And that is the smart thing to do. Men and women of today don't have the time to ponder over their relationship too much. Simple things we absorb along the way that reduce relationship pressures will go a long way in keeping us happy. That is the ultimate aim of it all anyway.

All through 2007, Shaaditimers have written in with little pieces of advice on what keeps a relationship going. You've told us what works, what doesn't and what goes a long way.



Smile And Make It Better – Veena N. (Mumbai)
A beautiful, heartfelt smile can mend anything. From a bad mood to a horrible temper, you can fix anything with this adhesive. You might be surprised with the results. If you share a smile when your partner has had a long, tiring day, the magic remains for a long time to come. You will see the results at unanticipated times in unexpected ways.


Watch What You Say – John J. (Ontario, Canada)
Speak Carefully. Words really are like arrows. You can't retrieve them once you have said them. And we all know the irrationality of the tongue when the mind is angry. So speak with caution. Remember, what you say will come back to you one day or another.



Keep Your Privacy – Neeta S. (London, U.K.)
If your partner is possessive beyond your control, it's better to keep him or her off your online friends' list. You'll have to give an explanation of every new name you add to your list. And you will still be doubted. And that's likely to be one tiring affair.



Stay Committed – Lynette M. (Mumbai)
It's important to understand that we are all individuals today and it's difficult for any two people to get along. It does take long to know if you can adjust to how another person lives. So give your relationship time and understanding. Running away is not the answer.



Keep 'Em Confused – Raj A. (New Delhi)
*Guys, this one's for you* Always keep your girl confused. They can't fight what they can't understand.
We're sure the girls don't agree! Girls, do we have any comments here?


Don't Be Insecure – Mrinalini N. (New York)
If you are feeling insecure, know that it's not them it's you. And if it's really something your partner is doing, then you need to reassess the relationship.



Keep Your Space & Give Some Too – Amit L. (Bangalore)
The classic concept of 'having your own space' takes a lead this year. Give the other person his or her space to make your relationship tolerant and stronger. Always give the man or woman their space and take yours too. The time apart will actually bring you closer when you are together.

Be Open To Sharing New Experiences – Sudha C. (Dubai)
Being together means being able to share a lot of new things together. It can be a hobby, a liking or a philosophy. Don't rubbish what the other person feels or does. Join in the fun and the relationship will be a party for both of you.



Respect Each Other – Shri. Deodhar R. (Nasik, India)
Learn to give respect. Educated and cultured people don't get into the mess of petty relationships. Learn to give respect and expect respect in return. As important as it is to respect your partner, it is equally important to not allow your partner to disrespect you. Respect yourself and your partner will do the same.



Take A Chill Pill – Abhishek A. (Birmingham, U.K.)
Take everything with a pinch of salt and all will be well. It is better we understand that no relationship is absolutely transparent. Everyone likes to maintain some privacy and that may mean some secrets. It's for the general good. So if you feel something is hidden from you, don't worry over it overmuch. And if you do find it exposed to you and to your liking, learn to let it go. Everything doesn't have to take on gigantic proportions.


Compromise – Shalini S. (Kolkata)
Compromise has to come from both partners. It's always a healthy give and take in a successful relationship.


Talk & Listen. Communicate. – Prachi S. (Mumbai)
It's important to communicate. And listening plays an important part there. Most of us only want to talk and let it out. But listening will give you another perspective and the strength and focus that nothing else can.
Of course, also learn to speak up. Be expressive in any relationship that matters to you. Speak your mind and your emotions. If well argued and communicated, two intelligent people can always work out inconsequential arguments.


Acceptance – Gemini T. (New York)
Learn to accept. Everyone has their negatives. It's better we understand that and move on instead of trying to change the other person. You can teach the person what you want along the way as the relationship grows. Trying to change the person overnight is foolish. But be prepared that the person may not want to change and it would be best for all concerned if you accept that. Sooner the better.



Make Your Expectations Clear – Rajiv V. (New Delhi)
Men are not mind readers! Please make your terms clear. Let your husband know what you expect from the relationship and vice versa. Women too for that matter need to know what their husbands expect. It's good to know what the other wants and lead a life together towards the same thing.

Originally Posted by RAHEN first of all welcome canthinkofanything. YEs with the alarming rate of casual relationships...yes insecurity is becoming a big problem...not that the trust doesnot exist..but its like no one can be trusted... Thanks everyone for appreciating.