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10-08-2007, 01:35 PM
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Self-Talking
Assalam aleikum,
Hope that everyone is fine and doing great..  ,,in search of articles to self talking...i found this article but the question still stands there..do u self talk...if u do then what do u usually talk about...do u think it is right to self talk...to which extent do u agree to the sentence " self talking is healing"Talking To Yourself  In old movies, if you wanted to show that someone was really crazy you'd show them talking to themselves. Even if they were only doing it mentally, it was supposed to be a sure sign of mental illness. What's really bizarre about this is that the act of talking to ourselves is actually a sign that we are self-aware and that we seek insight into our own actions. Talking to ourselves mentally is actually a hallmark of being human and proof that we are a higher species. WE ALL DO IT We all have mental conversations with ourselves. Self-talk is so constant that meditation groups, relaxation tapes, and self-help books focus on just trying to get us to be able to stop all the self-talk for a few seconds of deep relaxation. But, in a sense, we can measure our degree of psychological pain by checking out our self-talk. It's not whether we do it, it's what we say to ourselves that matters. WHAT DO WE SAY TO OURSELVES? It would be wonderful if we only said well-thought-out, self-protective, self-loving things to ourselves. It would be wonderful, but it's just not true for most of us most of the time. A lot of self-talk is critical. It's as if our private mental world is occupied by a watchdog who is always anxious to point out our flaws. To a degree, this is self-protective. It "resets our automatic pilot" when it is veering too far off course. But one of the quickest and best ways to improve our lives is through changing negative self-talk. How do we go about it? HOW TO CHANGE YOUR SELF-TALK 1) Become aware of it. 2) Label its source. 3) Change it. 4) Notice how different you feel. 5) Decide whether to change it further. 6) Don't think you are finished. BECOMING AWARE OF YOUR SELF-TALK Journaling seems to be the most popular technique for becoming aware of your self-talk at the moment. But whether you use a real journal or just try to notice what you say to yourself without a journal, look for the disagreements within yourself. Sometimes these disagreements will be almost auditory. One side will say something and the other side will say "That's not true," etc. But any self-talk that makes you feel bad contains a "disagreement." The disagreement is between the self-talk and the healthy part of us that doesn't want to feel bad! LABELING ITS SOURCE All self-talk that makes you feel bad originally came from someone else! Learn to identify who said this about you in your past. And mentally label the negative self-talk with the name of the person you got it from. An Important Hint: Since parents have so much influence in our lives, much self-talk comes from them. It will help you a lot to use your parent's first name - Herman or Brenda or whatever - instead of using "Dad" or "Mom" when you label these internal messages. This will remind you that your parents were only people who were capable of making mistakes, not "gods" who could never be wrong. CHANGING IT Simply change the thing you say to yourself into something that you'd like to believe that would make you feel better. NOTICING HOW DIFFERENT YOU FEEL Try the new self-talk for a short time (anything from a few hours to a couple of days or so). See how it feels, and learn the DEGREE to which these new, kinder statements are actually true. DECIDING WHETHER TO CHANGE IT FURTHER Make a new decision about what you will say to yourself about this in the future. Make what you say to yourself self-caring, self-protective, and something you honestly believe to be true. KNOWING YOU ARE NOT FINISHED You will be growing and changing all of your life. Updating your self-talk will always be necessary. Even when you finally finish making new decisions about the really negative stuff there will still be the need to update self-talk based on the changes that life brings your way. BECOME YOUR OWN THERAPIST Good therapy aims at well-thought-out, self-loving, and self-protective new decisions. When you follow the steps in this topic you are essentially becoming your own therapist. Do as much as you can on your own, but give your therapist a call if you run into painful things you can't change on your own. source: [Only Registered and Activated Users Can See Links. Click Here To Register...] Last edited by RAHEN; 10-08-2007 at 01:41 PM. 
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10-08-2007, 06:22 PM
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ahaaan nicee.. i talk to ma self occasionally ..
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10-08-2007, 09:09 PM
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and wat do u usually talk about.?
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10-08-2007, 10:00 PM
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kabhi kabhi main b karti ho
jab main ghusse me hoti hoon ya jab koi kaam mujhse na ho raha ho
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10-09-2007, 04:42 AM
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wsalam sis
 Y ea I talk to myself also, wen Im frustrated...trying to figure somthing out and good post
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10-09-2007, 08:32 AM
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thanks 4 replying.
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10-10-2007, 03:28 AM
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10-10-2007, 12:59 PM
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hmm..good if it helps u
everyone..do u think self talking is healing...
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10-11-2007, 03:46 AM
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yea it helps me aloott... but sometimes it get complicatedd...n i day dream alot..lol
n yea sometimes its healing magar sometimes when it become complicated to mushkel hoti ha.. so when we shud ask others for help..
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10-11-2007, 09:11 AM
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sisoo..self talk is something in which others cant help...its for u to help urself...and yes..may be time management help here...allow ur self to think not more than 20-25 min...whenever u get into thoughts...during sleep its fine...but normally in the day..its not fine...thinking abt it...but sis to be true..i also self talk..and day dream...and of what i know...these help me in getting ideas..find many ways..
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10-12-2007, 03:43 AM
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yea i agreee butt... sometime ap bohot confusse hojate hein n koi rasta nahi mil raha hota ya kai raste aik saath dikh rahe hote hein u dunnu konse raste pe jana chiyee.. to wat wud u doo? sirf self talking se to masla hal nahi hoga na phir.. kis se raye nahi leinge?
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10-12-2007, 05:46 PM
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i too talk to my self...it is really a healing thing...above some things r true but not all...
aur what we talk to ourselves is that what mistakes we did today or sometimes when we see sopmething emotional we talk to our self for that... i think that to describe what we talk to ourself is that..."whatever which touches our heart we talk about that by ourself" do u all agree with me...
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10-13-2007, 10:18 AM
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i dont act when i m confuse, i simply ask questions until i feel satisfy with it...and when i feel satisfied i act...i will advice u that only.. i take advice..when the decision is not abt me its abt everyone involved else i dont..cause for every mistake someone has to pay...hence i try to take as many advices privately as possible asking same question again and again differently. self talking se masla hal nahi hota...but self talking se yeh zuroor pata chal jata hai k wat u want to do...phir aap act karte ho...
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10-13-2007, 10:21 AM
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10-14-2007, 05:59 PM
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yea i agree with u rahen n love intelligence.. well said
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