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    Abusive Relationship: how to avoid them


    Research has shown that 36 to 50 percent of American women will be abused in their lifetime. (Women and girls sometimes abuse men and boys, but nine out of 10 victims are girls or women).

    People don't suddenly turn into abusers when they become adults. It's in their teen dating relationships. And violence doesn't always begin with a black eye. It can start small and get bigger. Much bigger. Big enough to send a victim to the hospital or the morgue. In fact, 42 percent of murdered women are killed by their partner (or former partner).


    Watch out for these DANGER signs:
    1. Sweeping you off your feet and declaring love immediately. This is the number one sign of a potentially battering relationship.
    2. Jealousy: Not wanting you to have other friends. Thinking everyone around WANTS you. Expecting you to spend every second with him. Sorry, extreme jealousy isn't a compliment - it's a problem.
    3. Controlling behavior: Keeping track of whom you're with and where you are. Telling you what to wear. Picking your friends. Keeping you from getting a job. Taking your money. Threatening to commit suicide, to spread gossip about you, or out you if you're part of a same-sex couple (gay and lesbian dating violence is under-reported due to pressures not to go public).
    4. Violence (physical, mental, or sexual): Punching the wall. Yelling. Insults. Name-calling. Isolating you from family or friends. Slamming the door. Insisting on any kind of unwanted sexual activity. Throwing things. Pinching, pushing, spanking...enough said?
    Bottom line: If you're uncomfortable with your relationship, something's wrong. Mind your instincts.
    Be realistic - don't expect your mate to change. Don't believe him when he tells you the way he acts is your fault.

    Scenario: You're alone with your guy and things are going from bad to worse in a red-hot hurry. You're terrified. What do you do? Get out safely! Do whatever it takes to survive until you can make your move.

    Don't abruptly break off with him. Don't threaten to break up. Plan ahead. Talk to someone you trust

    Or

    call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE).
    Battering is the greatest cause of injury to women - more than car accidents, muggings, and rapes combined.

    Find someone who makes you feel good about yourself. Don't become a statistic. Enjoying your relationship means enjoying your life.



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    Great post sis, this problem is growing and growing with time
    ~Ye Dard Ka Tufaan Guzra kyu nahi..Dil Toot Gayaa Hai To Bikhra kyu nahi..Ek Hi Shakhs Ko Chahta Hai kyu Itna..Koi Dusra Is Dil Me Utarta kyu nahi~

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    hmm, interesting information rahen sis.
    I know a few people who have been victim of an abusive relationship.
    One was physically tortured by her husband. And the other was not only physically tortured but also is being mentally and emotionally abused.

    It is a sad thing to know that things like this happen on everyday basis and these women are left with little option take any serious action due to the sake of their status in family/culture, for their children and their future...and for the sake of being patient and hoping for things to change.

    Thanks for the info.
    take life as it comes

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    yes the problem is growing with time...and no doubt these women after getting in the relation like marriage hve less options...



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    Jee sahi keh rahi hein aap sub. Allah humein mushkil waqt mein himmat aur sahi qadam uthaney ki taqat dey...Aameen.

    Good post Rahen sis. Thanks for sharing

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    thanks 4 liking sis...



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    at times the abuser may be suffering from psychiatric ailment like depreesion,a psychiatrist may help
    mental torture more by women
    nice post RAHEN

    Beacon of hope
    u make me happy

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    Thank you for ur input...keep coming and posting...

    exactly...a psychiatrist can handle this situation more efficiently...



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    thank u RAHEN
    u make me happy

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    and thanks to u too...



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