Betrayal - Were you used & abused too?

[Endurer]

It sucks when you find out that you were just a guinea-pig to that person for umm say as long as 2-3 years.. (been there done that) all of the world comes crashing down at your feet and you're left startling with your mouth wide-open.

How'd you go about this whole situation if you were me? What if your ex is being an obsessive shithead even after ripping your soul apart?

Ok ok I know there are consequences when you go live...so anyone reading this topic.. this is a GENERAL discussions/debate and everything said above is fictitious so please, don't take it too personally.

[amina1]

perhaps you need to get your head checked you are obviously not a good boyfreins

[Endurer]

^ thats a premonition for you lol

[ChiCa]

What if your ex is being an obsessive shithead even after ripping your soul apart?


if ym ex was obessive even after we broke up.. i'd cut my ties wit him.. i dont see a need in stayin friends with an x jus makes things harder in your next relationship... having said dat i was friends wit an x for a good 1-2 yrs after we broke up (we were together for about 3 yrs) - but he was never obessive, or nthin jus a regular friend.. it was harding talkin to him cus we both wanted more but due to circumstances beyond our control we couldnt be together.. my current bf - well fiance stayed in touch wit his ex only for the sole purpose of sex.. sad but true..

so neways what imsayin is.. its hard to move on if your friends wit an x especially if hes obessive.. change your number, email addy anything possible you could think bout and move on wit life

[Endurer]

Bingo! life's already miserable and I can't even think about making it more by inviting my ex over for the damned friendship (insert duh here). Well you see Chica, it's impossible to remain friends with your ex especially when you're still stuck with the feelings you once had. It sounds bloody good in a bollywood flick though when the hero goes sisterly/brotherly with his ex

So as far as I am concerned, no way! stay 10 miles away from your ex.

and no! I haven't changed my id or anything.. I've simply blocked everything and anything related to her.

[friendlygal786]

I agree with u guyz...if the feelings r still there, friendship is out of the question. That would just make life miserable. Staying away and avoiding them and giving urself some time to get thru the pain is a much safer bet.

[MsJasmine]

well if that happens I think it's good in one way that you learn from this experience and you go one more step ahead in knowing the person for next time. You would be more cautious and carful before you be too friendly to them or make a relation with them. The disadvantage would be that it would be difficult to trust another person in your life. It doesn't hurt to give another chance but don't be too close or build expectations that would hurt badly later on. The things only would hurt badly when you get too close and it's hard for you too manage without them. Girls!! you got to be strong and firm in your decisions, there would be no one to fool you around!!!

[Endurer]

Errm, don't think I've completely moved on since part of me is still stuck in the past but yeah, it was something of an experience. Now I look forward to more meaningful things in life.

Sorry, took me long to reply back.

[friendlygal786]

Thats good to hear that ur looking forward to other things, hope things only get better for u

[Glamorous-Ladee]

Endurer firs of all really sorry to hear the situtaion ur in and i hope all goes well for u in the future. In any case i dont think a person can be friends with the ex, because u share so much with each other and deep down some whr the feelins are still there.. They're just burried deep down and bein friends with the ex mite mean the feelins stay there for a very long time cuz if u keep in contact with them u jus remember all the things tht u shared with eachother. Better to jus completely cut them out of ur life and move on, i know it;s easier said than done buh thts wut u gutta do..