Possessive attitude

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  1. RAHEN

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    what is ur take on the fact when u find ur gf/bf getting possessive abt u...calls u mostly every time in a day...and u get fedup of it...when u talk abt it ...it brings emotional situation/ violent actions...u dont want to break the relation but her/his possesive acts make u want to change way...how will u make ur partner realize that u want some space or ...calling/miss call brings annoyance...
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  2. sikandar107

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    Nothing. :) Its a difficult situation. You know shaq hi dawa to hakim Lukmaan ke paas bhi nahin thi. Possessivness is a way of demonstrating love but at the same time, it respresents sense of insecurity. So, one has to work on removing this sense of insecurity from his/her partner. Just show patience and make him/her feel that you love to receive his/her calls/missed calls but on the other side of the phone set you may not be at a comfortable situation to receive his/her calls. One must try to develop in his/her partner's mind that he/she trusts on him/her and she would be happy her feelings are reciprocated. :)
  3. RAHEN

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    yeah this can be done...a better understanding approach is taken...
    he/she can also fix their time and talk in that hrs...instead of 30 episodes a day...this can bring the level of insecurity to some extent down...
  4. Miss_Sweet

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    hmmm...main use saaf saaf kahoongi...ke mujhe yeh possessivness pasand nai...

    HE is possessive but not DAT much ke mujhe fone hi karta rahe...actually he does'nt call me:p I call him ...sometimes:D
  5. dsjeya

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    love makes the other person happy
    possessiveness make the life of the other person miserable
    nice thread rahen
  6. _jadoogar_

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    I'll let him know straightforwardly that I can't take this amount of possessiveness...if that leads to a conflict I'll still stand by my opinion and clear the matter instead of making my own life miserable by keeping it in my heart..
  7. RAHEN

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    ma sis- its great that u call him...if he starts doing then...

    no doubt on that dsjeya...thankyou...:)

    jadoogar...that means u will change ur ways...
  8. AaDi

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    i'm really possessive n to be honest i'll love to get dat type of possessiveness from her .. :biggrin: even if she talks to some other guy .. i'll burn in flames :rolling; .. so u can see .. da stuff u mentioned .. miscallin etc .. datz noffin :D
  9. dsjeya

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    thank u rahen
  10. *Saira*

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    possessiveness to a certain limit is ok but when u try to possess ur partner as if he/she is a THING that's when problems arise.One should treat other person like an individual and should give enough space for the betterment of their relationship.
  11. Glamorous-Ladee

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    i would just b straight up about it ... say it nicely put it into words tht he'll understand.. buh basically i would jus get 2 the point cuz avoidin the situation mite make it worse..
  12. sikandar107

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    You are true G.L. Its better to make your partner secured and compatibility is the essence to remove the sense of insecurity. And one thing GL, if I say that I am not possessive about my love then I am dishonest to myself. So possessiveness is always there and it pinches to everyone. However, the style and way of demonstrating that possessiveness varies from person to person :)
  13. friendlygal786

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    Actually, Im pretty possessive and to tell u the truth, I dont kno wat everyone always complains about...possessiveness isnt a bad thing, it shows that a person needs u more than anyone ever will, they want to b with u as much as possibe, b in ur presence as much as possible...I would like it, cuz Im very emotional and possessive person myself. BUT there is a limit, if it turns into violence or somthing that is totally crazy, thats another story
  14. sikandar107

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    Yes friendlygal I agree. Look every person is unique and they show their emotions in their own way. But then overlimit is always painful of anything.
  15. friendlygal786

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    Yes, overlimit in anything is not good. But a healthy possessiveness, in my opinion, is not bad at all
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